Schooling Mothers of Youth on Loving Effectively

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Do you feel your relationship is holding you back?

So many times while dating we meet someone with so many good qualities, we have fun in the beginning and you are convinced that the relationship could have good potential. You decide to move forward then next thing you know, potential isn’t developing into progress. What do you do? Do you slow your progress down to help your partner catch up? What if you find yourself being the one making moves for the both of you? Is this a deal breaker? Or do you help your partner realize what they are good at and help them do more of that?


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Having single friends while in a relationship

Come on y’all I need your help in this one. I will often bring up topics that I discuss with friends or clients just to get a consensus on the topic. Ladies what do we do if we enter into a relationship and our boyfriends have female friends that they have been cool with before we entered the picture? Same question for the men, what do you say to your boo if she didn’t tell you upfront that she is so close with other men? Do we give them an ultimatum or trust them? Does it make it better if he or she is taken and in a relationship of their own? Would you expect your partner to suggest double dating even if you don’t know either person?


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We aren’t parents, we are assistants of the Universe

Not everyone is gifted with the ability to have children. Trust me if you have children it is for a more divine reason than you realize. Not every man and woman that has unprotected sex produces children. What bothers me is when parents think their kids were born and owe them something. Children are born because God has a purpose for their lives and saw fit for you to be the conceiver and bearer of the child. Many of us don’t realize our purpose enough to raise children into their purpose. It is important for us to learn more about what we enjoy doing and what makes us happy so we can do more of those things and pass it on to our children. I remember one time after a holiday my step Mom caught me giving a piece of ham to a stray dog and I got yelled at. She also used to offer us kids up to the drunks asking her for change in the street as a joke. As a child this is most confusing especially if God wanted you on this Earth to be a giver. So please parents stop trying to live your life through your children, you never know how the little things will slow your child down from living in their purpose. Let them explore and find other activities for them to participate in other than things you did as a child. My children like soccer, tennis and swimming and a variety of other things. None of these things I wanted to do daily as a child, but because I know I have them and it is my duty to guide them into happiness I will do research and find someone who is into those activities that can help. Think about your kids talents and things they enjoy doing and get them to doing more of it. Not only will it increase their happiness, but it may turn into their purpose which can turn into their success.

Peace & Love
Ono


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Feel it, speak it, write it and so shall it be

This message came to me this morning as I woke up and began to send out positive vibes to those on my mind this morning. Everyday there are a numerous amount of people that my spirit sends me, so when they pop in my mind I send them my energy even though I may be miles away. In particular my brother has been heavy on my mind, as I began to analyze the reason why it is probably because I want the best for him. It seems like there is a curse on the males in my family they all get themselves into some unnecessary shit and end up with their rights and freedom stripped from them. They go to prison as young men and from then on their lives are so much more complicated and they miss out on so much. I want my people to learn from others mistakes so they can know how to avoid them, not try to see if that same mistake will have a different outcome in their lives. I recently told my brother to write down his goals. I constantly pray that when I instruct someone to do something, they listen! Scientifically speaking I am born in the week of prophecy, which means I have the gift of communicating and enforcing revealed truth. So my truth here today for all that are reading this is, have you ever heard the saying that all things happen in 3?! For example, death? Father, son, holy spirit? The trinity? Well if that sounds familiar listen to what I tell you. So many people simply just pray about what they want and continue to miss their blessings because they are only doing the first step, however there are two additional steps that follow when you desire to attract goodness into your life. When you pray get in tune with your mind and your body, then your mind will subconsciously begin to help you figure out what you want in life. Step 2 is to say what you want aloud, most of the time our prayers are done silently, we need to get it out and say it so that it could be real. Say what you want to someone who you can trust as an accountability partner, someone that can hold you accountable for the goals you set for yourself. Even better is someone who may be praying for the same thing as you. The final step is to write it down, it is not enough for you to think and pray about it…you have to say it and you have to write it down. From here you will REALLY begin to see God work in your life. We can pray and God is ready to assist…but you have some work to do as well. Come to God with your half of the cup filled and watch how it begins to overflow, have fun with life because life is what you make it!

Peace & Love
Ono


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What they don’t want you to know about what we eat!

Have you heard of Genetically Modified Organisms (GMO’s)??? Am I even surprised that this society is monetarily motivated…so much so that the elite create illness just to keep the economy in motion?! Well guess what, there is a group of people that make big bucks every time your aunt, my uncle, our cousins and thousands of others are diagnosed with a disease. How you ask? Well, before this doctors visit you believed that you had a good bill of health… Then you follow the doctors orders and go get your blood work done or your blood pressure checked. Then out of nowhere you are told your numbers are off and the only way to fix it is to take medication. How do you receive that medication you ask? Well, the nice doctor scribbles some stuff along with a signature and you take it to the pharmacy and they are glad to fill it. You know the process…this is how our economy functions. The saying is “money is the root of all evil” so why is it so hard for people to realize this country is ran by the evil doers since everything we have a natural born rite to cost money, don’t you get pissed when you have to pay for oil, water, lights, etc?!. There is still time for us to change and make a difference. If it is processed, its purpose is to make disease. Read and google the ingredients you eat. If you can’t pronounce it, you should think twice about consuming it. The cheap stuff doesn’t make it to the hoods by coincidence, it is part of a plan. What will you do about it? GMO’s are seeds that our ingredients grows from to make our food, it is created to stop insects from ruining the crops which is a waste of money…the food industry hates wasting money so they put chemicals in our food to stop it from going bad. Our animals eat it and get sick and those diseases are passed on to us. Don’t believe me, research it for yourself! It is my duty to pass what I have learned unto you, even if it only reaches one. One by one we can change the world.


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Believing in Faith, without believing in Religion

I’m annoyed by people with little to no faith….they claim their current situation as though it can’t change. They claim disease as though they can’t be healed…they claim death as though they can’t continue to live smh. In my life I have taken sooo many steps out on faith alone just to see for myself what the Universe can do…ignored those around me who are faithless and I tell you…it is amazing! I’ve received money, cars, jobs, relationships, places of shelter, protection all without knowing what the heck was going on, all I knew was it HAS to work out! If I could find more people like that, I would be more social…right now I’d rather just stay in my own world where I believe anything is possible! It gets hard at times and when you look in your pocket at there is no money or you open the refrigerator and it is bare or when you have more bills than income it can be a little frustrating and we may say things because we are confused and upset, but take back those negative words and thoughts immediately and replace them with positivity. The Universe will forgive you and also change your situation. I don’t believe in any particular religion I feel they create separation and war, my religion is love. However I do have faith in a higher entity, not the Son…but the Sun the Creator of the Universe. It doesn’t matter if you believe what I believe or not, the key is to realize you were created with purpose an destiny and your God will not being you this far just to have you suffer, there are lessons an blessings to be acknowledged within the struggle and if you take time to still be grateful no matter what you are going through, you will see more sunshine than rain.
Peace & Love


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Control your circle or your circle will control you!

I have been given the opportunity to work with youth and teens in helping them understand this world we live in through learning about how to love themselves and others. Being a teen is a difficult time and with the demand for parents to work around the clock these days, teens are resorting to social networks and negative influences to be educated and cope with the lack of support. I have noticed a need and that is why I do all I can to help teens develop a routine of self-love, utilizing positive affirmations and education. What I want to say today is…you are special! Everything about you is special! Your name, your physical and mental state and especially your birthday. See in my world this is how I view things…you weren’t just born because your parents had sex or made love, my parents did that for 11 years without protection and birth control before I was born. However, God has a need for us all and he allows us to transport through the portal (birth canal) all with a purpose and reason for living. What happens is life gets in the way. See our parents and grandparents are products of slavery and unfortunately have been brainwashed and trained to be a productive slave and pay bills. However, this is just to fulfill the greed of government, not our lives! We were not born to be slaves, we born Kings and Queens! I was raised by a very caring woman who just happened to be raised with a slave mentality. I knew at a young age that this wasn’t God’s plan for me…when she refused to give change to the homeless and argued with the service if her order was incorrect and I won’t ever forget the time I got yelled at for bringing some ham outside and I threw a piece to a stray dog…see I always like to helped people and I never liked the idea of judging someone else for how they lived, but that wasn’t the heart of all of those around me. So after thinking long and hard I realize that at the end of the day I was born to fulfill God’s purpose and not what my family believes that I should do. I did not ask to be born to my family because if that was the case I would be the daughter of a wealthy family, however we were all born into a family of vessels. These vessels are human just like us however God is using them for a purpose as well. We have to realize what our purpose is, what we do that makes us happy. Once we grab a hold to our born talents and find ways to do more of those things to promote more happiest, paired with our positive responses and that is when life begins. Once we begin to surround ourselves with people who are we can relate with then we begin the journey of learning ourselves and what makes us happy. Most of the time if you were sent here on special assignment from the Universe you battle with your closest family being jealous of you. Those closest to you can’t understand why you dare to be different and they begin to work to tear you down instead of building you up. You do not have to be defined by the circumstances around you, you can overcome and begin controlling your path through consciousness.


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Why I really became a Vegetarian…

It hurts my heart…so many lives being claimed behind these counterfeit pharmaceutical drugs that aren’t being properly tested, they release them to us as their guinea pigs…you, I and thousands of others lose family members and all they can say…oh well, we must pull that drug off the shelf and figure out what we need to fix so we can re-release it. Then all we are left with is memories and brainwashed people around us who believe it was just his/her time. No, it was not their time…but the crooks do a very good job and making us believe that. Please stop putting so much trust into your Dr., please! I keep saying it…I’ve been saying it. Don’t be their guinea pig! Since the doctor told me in the summer of 2006 that my blood pressure needed to be managed by a pill and I was pre-diabetic and I would possibly need a pill for that too…Lord No! I then asked if I could get a nutritionist to help me avoid it and she said, No, nutritionists are only offered once you have the dis-ease and insurance doesn’t pay to help prevent it…it was in that moment that I stopped trusting the healthcare system. With the assistance of God and God alone, I decided to do what in my family didn’t seem like had ever been done before…I became a vegetarian! My only goal is to gain knowledge, share it and encourage others to do the same! God created plants and that is all I trust! So the exact date was December 1, 2006, I decided on that day that I was going to trust in God to lead me in the direction that my heart desired. I stop eating beef and pork that day for good! It was funny because my 23rd birthday party was approaching, so I thought I was doing good by getting my outfit early to avoid the last minute rush. Party comes not even 2 weeks later my clothes were already starting to fit loosely and I hadn’t even done anything but that little change. So I was excited! Then I began to educate myself on what to eat and not eat, what supplements to take and ask people who have done it before for advice. It was like being born again, so much to learn. I was praying that God brought people into my life that understood and could help me along my journey. I am a visual learner and this was before YouTube, but I needed more options fast because everyone around me thought I was losing my mind! LOL. After giving up beef and pork, I was eating chicken, fish and turkey, but it didn’t take long for me to give up chicken as well. Then I was eating everything turkey…turkey sausage, turkey bacon, turkey burgers. I let go of the eggs and starting buying egg whites (less cholesterol). I would buy tuna and only mix it with a little bit of mustard and pepper for when I was in a rush or wanted to add it to a salad. Then of course some people around me tried to be discouraging, but it didn’t work. During that time I hung out with my Bestie most of the time and she always supported me, even though she was a little concerned at the same time because the weight was just falling off. My energy was up..my confidence was up..I felt lighter and my mood didn’t have such drastic extremes. It was like all that meat was clouding my natural thought process and blocking my blessings! This was all happening to me at the peak of my life it seemed. I was very active working at UPS, I was also in college and I had been enjoying the single adult life, but it seemed like the doctor took a look at my family history and wanted to push me to continue the cycle, but I had other plans for my life so I continued my journey. I had a blender so I started to make fruit smoothies instead of milkshakes. I can’t forget the Tilapia…my favorite, so I had it a lot…baked with some rice on the side and a salad. I stopped drinking dairy milk and discovered how awesome Soy milk was so I switched…didn’t help that I was still eating ice cream though lol. This was a world that I wasn’t familiar with at all. I grew up as a fast food/restaurant child, except for when Mom wasn’t tired from working…or when Dad didn’t burn the dinner LOL or it was a holiday. Then on January 7, 2007 I met my future husband and guess what…he had been a vegetarian for 5 years! I couldn’t believe it…a handsome, black man and he didn’t eat meat?! Seriously?! This was unreal in my world, but I realized God was answering my prayers! We have come along way almost 8 years later and have learned a lot about the Law of Attraction, the various ways prayers can be answered and how to become Vegan. We haven’t totally committed to the vegan lifestyle yet, but we enjoy it a couple of times a week. My husband gave up alcohol 2 years ago and I just recently within the past few months decided to give up alcohol because it went against my goal, it is not easy…but it is worth it! I may not be as far along in my goals as I want to be, but I have come a mighty long way! 

Peace and Love


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Your Life on Purpose

I heard a speaker once talk about living in your purpose and he spoke about the difference between those people who were born for purpose and those who were born to assist those that were born for purpose. What I learned from his speech was that we don’t choose the family we are born in or the friends we make due to the school or neighborhood we live in. All this is predestined for a reason and the people we encounter were place there to teach and/or protect us during the process of fulfilling our purpose..but we must see life and those around us for what it really is. That means when we realize that it is not everyone’s purpose to make it big or walk a purpose…once you realize that most people’s purpose is to help you make it instead of actually making it themselves then you can realize that it is okay to let go of people who may be holding you back, whether or not they are family. When you let go of the expectations of your family & friends and realize that their purpose is to be used as vessels by God to get you on the path to your life purpose, you can TRULY let go and let God. Now some of you may wonder, what about the people that hurt me, curse me, violated me, were those people sent here in my life for that reason and how is that suppose to help my purpose? My answer may sound astonishing, but the answer is yes! Let me give you an example, since being in Phoenix I was determined to make connections with positive and open minded people such as myself. Through the works of the Universe, my family and I are growing close to a church family. At this church a native man and his wife are in the beginning stages of building their congregation and they offer such good energy (although our faiths differ slightly) that we decided to fellowship with them. During this fellowship we met a woman who belongs to their church who was involved in a fatal car years ago and was close to being crushed in half by a truck, her pre-teen daughter and 4 year old son were in the car. Her 4 year old son was ejected from the car and the accident claimed his life. I learned of this incident after meeting and having a conversation with the woman and from her bright smile and bubbling personality I would have never guessed. Anyhoo, turns out that she was devastated and turned to drugs and street life to cope with feeling responsible for the death of her son. She has scars that won’t never go away emotionally or physically, but her Faith and Will had to be tested in major way because she was born to make a major impact in the lives of others. She was born to be an inspiration for other women in the streets and other women who have lost children, her aura and smile alone could change the hearts and minds of others. I felt a deeper connection to the lady after her Mom finished telling me her story. This was the Saturday before Easter, the next day was Sunday and we came back to show our support during service on Easter Sunday and the woman was there singing her heart out and telling her story during her song. I was touched and gave her the biggest hug after service and we began to talk about what helped her make it through. And to my surprise this woman told me…that even AFTER having a full hysterectomy due to the accident, she gave birth to another boy and today he is 7 years old..she emphasized that this happened WITHOUT any of her female parts! I started to cry..because right in that moment I saw God in her…I knew that yes we go through things and it may seem difficult to find God during those times, but if you can just hang on…God will show himself. And after that happened this woman knew God was real and it didn’t matter to anyone else what their opinion of God was because her journey was real! The magical part about it all is when God chooses someone like that to use the inspiration comes from their experience and the story they tell to others. Life is all about helping and inspiring the next so we all can succeed and to see her smiling and spreading love even after that was a beautiful thing. We are all here to assist each other in some form or another. When people can just stop comparing themselves to others and trying to compete it is easier to realize that some people were born to be, some were born to do and some were born to have and some won’t make it because they aren’t suppose to. If you feel something greater in yourself and your spirit that you can’t quite explain, why be stopped because of others when your purpose is your purpose, on purpose?! Think about it!